Saturday, December 9, 2017

Worldwide Candle Lighting 2017

"I light this candle in the name of Sekai Ayinde Williams..." 
The Compassionate Friends will host this year's Worldwide Candle Lighting for children gone too soon on Sunday, December 10, 2017. Please, take a moment to light a candle wherever you are (even on your cellphone!) at 7pm your local time, "...that their light may always shine."
#RememberSekai
#RememberThem
#SayTheirNames
#MakeItBetter

For more information on this annual event:
The Compassionate Friends Worldwide Candle Lighting 2017

Friday, December 25, 2015

Babies, need, love

Brazil declares emergency after 2,400 babies are born with brain damage, possibly due to mosquito-borne virus
The above link is active. Please read the article.

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I don't know how I haven't heard of this before now. This is horrible. In what I hope won't seem horribly selfish, I want to share that seeing this on someone's Facebook wall tonight was timely as I wipe away hopefully the last of the Christmas tears.

First, please pray for these babies and their families, and those in the position to aid and support them. Ok, so the thing is, I've been lamenting my body's continual attacks against itself, against me, and how this has knocked me so far off my path, leaving me confused as to what now and dismayed as to what is and isn't, even more than losing Sekai I think because at least I used to think that I could still do the work that he told folks I'd do: "My mother's going to get her Ph.D. in special education and make things better for kids like me." My lamentations are no secret, but I think they're poorly understood, as, too, I believe, is my medical condition in general. I won't go there now. Let's just say that I've lost a lot, and because so much of it was through no wrongdoing on my part—I was born this way, I can't help it, I really do try, I'm really sorry that my being sick and being different than I was and not being able to do what I used to has upset folks—it hurts that much more. (Ah, so I just realized that I could attach "like Sekai" to each of those statements.)

I am a nurturer, one who literally craves giving to and helping others, and it feeds my soul to do so. Also, I'm an extrovert, which doesn't just mean social and outgoing, but that I crave being connected, and thrive off being with others; unfortunately the reverse holds as well.

What does this have to do with 2,400 Brazilian babies born in the last year with brain injuries?

A few days ago, a friend asked me, "How do you want to be needed?" Umm. Hmm. I can't quote it, but my response had something to do with love, because that's always it for me. And connection. There was also something about applying my knowledge and skills to helping others. Reading this, my first thought was, let's go, I want to go! They are going to need early intervention, special education and related services, parent-to-parent/family-to-family support and peer navigators, and possibly foster care and extended alternative placements and community living options in a way that maybe they haven't seen before, if only because it is such a high concentration of a specific medical condition and developmental concern, and I know this, this is what I studied and trained to do, and networked with folks who studied and trained to do the parts that aren't my strength. I'm sorry if it sounds selfish, maybe it is selfish, God help me, but I was sent here to do something for somebody and since I'm still here maybe there's more for me to do, yet my body isn't trying to let me do much and I don't have all the time in the world anymore to figure it out and get it done. Reading this touched that place in me that gets me brainstorming and believing that I might still be able to make a difference. Of course the fact that it took longer than I'll admit just to write this post reminds me why I'm off my path in the first place. But maybe... That maybe there: Is that what they call hope?

Thank you for praying.

It started with a baby... Merry Christmas, y'all! (Get it?)
I miss you, Bootsie, always.

#makeitbetter

Wednesday, October 8, 2014

21

21!

Dear Sekai,
I know you were really concerned about becoming an adult, mostly about being a contributing member of society (I never figured out where you got that) and having to move away from me (again). Well, I want you to know that through the sharing of your story, you truly have contributed a lot. And I hope you know that I was doing everything I could for you to be able to stay, and that I meant it when I said you wouldn't have had to move out when you became an adult, even if you got married and had a bunch of children and named them all after you (though I'm still not so keen on that last bit, haha, ooo boy). Wednesday, October 8, 2014: your 21st birthday. You would've been a good man, I'm sure. 

HAPPY BIRTHDAY, SEKAI!

Forever, I love you, always. 

Thursday, October 2, 2014

21 lies

Breaking news: they say he lied. The patient we've been hearing about for the past few days, for whom there's been much public outcry and on whose behalf others' names were publicly slandered, reportedly lied about whether he had been exposed to a potentially fatal virus and in acting as if he had not been exposed himself went on to expose an estimated 100 other people who may or may not have even known that they were in harm's way. 

We have to do better. We have to decide that it is not acceptable to let others pay so dearly for our own misdeeds.

Autocorrect changed the dearly above to deadly. I pray that will not be so for those directly affected by this breaking news. And I wish it had not been so for Sekai.